How To Get Your Wife Back After Divorce

Monday, January 18th, 2010

People sometimes do marry the same person twice believe it or not

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It’s not impossible to get your wife back after you have divorced. If you want to know how to get your wife back after divorce you could look for inspiration at one of the most famous examples of people marrying twice. The actor Richard Burton remarried Elizabeth Taylor again after they got divorced. But how can two people that have gone through the trauma of divorce, ever get back together again?

It’s a lot easier to prevent divorce before it gets to the point of legal separation and finality but the process of patching things up and getting back together again is the same whether you have divorced or not.

I’m not a marriage councilor nor did I manage to prevent my 20-year relationship from breaking up amicably when we had drifted apart. Over the years I’ve watched as many of my friends got divorced and I’ve noticed a few things that are common in all these situations including my own.

The broken relationships that I’ve witnessed seemed to fail either because neither partner wanted to save it, or just one of the pair wanted to and used techniques that appeared very reasonable at the time but were completely ineffective.

If at least one of you wants to stop divorce then you have a chance to do so

I guess that there’s nothing to be done when neither partner wants to save the marriage but there has to be at least a chance if one of you does. So what is it that so many people in this situation do wrong?

Perhaps they try too hard. They plead with their partner to reconsider and promise that they will change their ways. This is natural human behaviour and most would consider it a reasonable course to take but it rarely works unfortunately. If you’re trying to get your wife back after a divorce or prevent your marriage breaking up then pleading is the last thing you should do. You should be concentrating on making yourself more attractive to your partner instead of persuading her that you’re weak by pleading and lying about changes that you’ll make that she knows that you won’t.

Be strong, that’s how to get your wife back after divorce

Don’t plead, don’t argue and don’t become inconsistent by agreeing with her opinion just because you think that’s what she wants to hear. Be strong, dress well and start to take charge of your own life. Show her that you can live without her; she just might decide that she’s missing something by not being with you.

Women are attracted to men who are strong and capable of protecting them. They’re repulsed by weak pleading and prefer to do the chasing themselves. So be strong, confident, self sufficient and consistent with your opinions. It could make all the difference and the secret of how to get your wife back after divorce.

Author: Steve Gee